You can not "keep" a man

A man decides whether or not he wants to be with you.

Whether it his lack of appreciation or failure to see your worth, or something you did to cause the break up you can not "keep a man"

Listen to these memes on social media have women thinking all men are kids that need constant attention and supervision.

These memes and "relationship experts" will have you thinking men are a job to be kept.

Love is not hard. Men are not kids. Men are not jobs. Men are not God (whatever that means to you) so please stop using "keep a man" in your vocabulary.

To think that a man can be "kept" means you think he is superior and that you put a man's needs and wants before your own.

It also implies that you don't have enough trust in a man to realize that there is no way ANYONE can fulfill all the wants and needs of ANOTHER human being. Happiness comes from within.

To believe that anytime a man leaves a woman is because he wasn't getting enough of his needs and wants implies that you believe your self worth is tied to what a man thinks of you. It also promotes the idea that men are superior and above flaws.

Could it be that this man left because he invested too much time and energy sucking the energy from another woman and it wasn't enough because he wasn't conscious enough to know that women are not entitled to him, and that another person should add to the happiness you ALREADY have?

Could it be that this man was using the woman all along?

Moral of the story : Stop tying your SELF WORTH to whether or not you have a man to share your life with.

Being single and not being compatible with someone is not pathological.

What is pathological is staying in unhappy and unhealthy relationships where you have no voice, no love, no loyalty,no growth,and you can't rise to your feminine calling all for the sake of saying "I know how to keep a man" "at least I got a man""I've been with my man for 10 years"

Rise up women. YOU are MORE than your service to a man. ‪#‎CreWisdom‬

The BS of living in a male centered world

 Most of you won't read this because it's not what you want to hear.

We live in a male-centered world where some men constantly throw women under the bus for doing the same messy things as men and he gets the support of men and women , but if you are a woman uplifting other women and letting them know they don't have to be phased by what a man thinks you're the enemy.

Single dads are heroes, but single moms should have just kept their legs closed and chose better.

Treating women like doormats has always been the norm and if she accepts it or is with a man that hurts her it's her own fault,but when women do the dirt "times are changing" "women don't know their place" and now women need to stop hurting these poor men.

Women are killed, raped, and assaulted over simple shit like not giving her phone number out, for dressing "too sexy", and for simply existing and we spend so much time teaching women how not to be a victim than changing these entitlement mindsets.

Yet when a man is killed by cop we all want to rally,riot, and pray for our Black men..

Incarcerated Black men get more love and support than single mothers. "free my boy" that robbed and killed people everybody make mistakes don't judge." Then turn around and get mad at a single mom for putting a man on child support or having a lot of kids and call her bitches and hoes.

They do all this talk about men being providers and protectors but men can't step to his fellow man and call him out on his bullshit.

Yet as I point these things out, I am being negative and "throwing men under the bus" or I hate men or "causing division" when all day men police women's clothing, hair, career choices, entertainment choices...

I dare you go to walk up and start talking negatively about women in a crowd or on Facebook and watch how men and women clap and join in.

Now I dare you to call out men on their privilege and real bullshit other than entertainment choices and nonsense ,and watch how many excuses get made and how much hate you receive for daring to ask a man to be accountable for his actions instead of "a man do what you allow" bullshit.

Then the bitter black woman is the ultimate threat to society, yet being the bitter black man is normal because he has such a hard life and be careful how you talk to him but if we get called a bitch we just need to get over it.

There is something wrong when society constantly calls women the weaker sex, but does everything in it's power to protect the feelings and ego of men.

Let all that sink in without your need to defend or be right. It is what it is.‪#‎CreWisdom‬ ‪#‎fighttoendsexism‬ ‪#‎openyoureyes‬

PSA with Expletives to silencers and misogynists

PSA with EXPLETIVES: Let me throw this out here for a quick minute to you simple minded, unsympathetic Black men or non- Black men who have something to say when I am sharing an example or dropping knowledge on Black women being victimized.

DO NOT come on my damn comments talking about " you do know that Black women aren't the only ones that go through this right" as a way to save the Black man's collective image or stick up for other women. What you are doing is trying to silence me so we can normalize victimization and clean the hands of these sick, delusional, and lost Black men who are victimizing BLACK WOMEN>

IF I make a post specifically pertaining to BLACK women it does not mean that I am not aware of other women going through it. I speak for Black women because if you hadn't noticed BLACK women are victimized more than any other race/ethnic group of women and NO ONE gives a damn. I don't see white women, asian, and latino women OR even Black men giving a damn about Black women except for when you need to blame somebody for something or need a backbone to load all of your BS on.

MY message to you :SHUT THE FUCK UP AND LISTEN.

IF you see it as offensive when a white person says "well cops kill white people too" as an attempt to silence and demean your experience when talking SPECIFICALLY about a Black victim knowing that BLACK people are victimized and targeted more then PLEASE know it is the same concept.

IF OTHER GROUPS of women are so concerned then they have a voice like I do. I DO support other victims but MY FOCUS is on BLACK WOMEN because I can't AFFORD to HOPE that OTHER groups of WOMEN and MEN be the voice for me. BLACK WOMEN are the voice and backbone to EVERYONE but her self. Including the raggedy ass Black men who can't say anything when they see a woman being disrespected or victimized YET we still going on and on fighting for them.

The next man that comes to my page "but white men do it too" "but other women get treated like it too" I promise you if I go off on you or block you do not be surprised.

I don't give a shit what white men or any other men do to women at this point. I DO CARE AS a genuine and loving human being that sympathizes with ANYONE dealing with pain but at the end of the day THEY aren't the ones stalking, harassing, calling black women bedwenches and thots, beating, raping, and knocking up women just to abandon their child to the majority of our Black women. IT AIN'T ABOUT YOU BOO! I AM NOT HERE TO SUGARCOAT AND DENY REAL PROBLEMS THAT WHITE MEN AND OTHER MEN CAN NOT FIX. AT SOME POINT BLACK MEN MUST BE HELD RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS AND IT STARTS WITH CUTTING OFF THE CODDLING, EXCUSES, AND DENIAL.

MY PASSION for justice of BLACK WOMEN will never die unless I die so if YOU have a problem with me trying to make others aware of the victimization of Black women then feel free to unfollow or unfriend. I promise you that you hold no value to my life and I won't know you are gone.

Now, BACK to your regularly scheduled program. **drops the damn mic while playing PASTOR TROY MUSIC**

I'm out. ‪#‎CreWisdom‬

They only ask about "morals" when it comes to slut-shaming, homophobia, and Black people fighting back and "distractions"

Ever notice how anytime you mention anything about values and morals in this country not existing anymore the first example a person can bring up is women having sexual freedom(code word :hoes,thots, sluts), and more people "turning" gay and gay people getting married? Black people are "out of control" now ?

Oh Lawd it's so many fags around us! Women not quiet and reserved no more oh no the world is ending!"

Yet they have nothing to say about rape, domestic violence, murder, child abuse, institutional racism, deadbeat parents, and other issues.

It's completely fine to see a video with women twerking around a rapper but noo let a gay guy Twerk "this country has no morals left!"

It is completely fine for a man to sleep with 50 women in his city but if a woman does it she is the neighborhood jump off. "We need more moral women!!!"

It's completely fine for a white person to kill another white person. Won't be on the news or newspaper unless it is a murder suicide. If a white cop kills a white person they almost always get fired or convicted.

Black person kills a black person. Black person gets killed by cop and black people are enraged. Then they say "what were they wearing " well black people kill each other all the time. What about black on black crime!!"

White people burn couches, cars and fights after their football or basketball team loses. Trashing the street and breaking beer bottles. No big deal just mad white people.

Black people rioting over dead black people "look at those Savages! No morals!"

Black man gets an attitude at cop,runs, or remains respectable after getting called a nigger or distracted: gets shot.

White man curses out cop and gets violent : A warning or fine .Live to see another day

Understand this: Nothing is "immoral" until a woman does what men do, black people do what white people do, and gay people do what straight people do.

Never mind those 64,000 Black girls and women missing in America. Look there is a guy wearing a dress and makeup!

Oh look a woman who loves her body,is not dependent on a man and has sexual freedom

Oh look a Black person not afraid of what white people think and stands up for themselves!

Oh look a black person that appreciates their blackness! How dare they want dolls,emojis, and movie characters to look like them! How dare they wear their natural hair!

Let's talk shit about them! ‪#‎distractions‬ ‪#‎CreWisdom‬

Everyone is allowed to share their pain EXCEPT BLACK WOMEN

Blog post anyone?

People have a hard time seeing others acknowledge their painful experiences. Especially when it comes to women of color.

I realize that when Black women decide to empower themselves by saying "I'm strong" or "I won't allow a man to walk over me" it's called "man bashing".

If we point out misogyny and sexism as it relates to Black culture Non-colored people always say "well all women go through this"

Acknowledging that intersections exist is so difficult for them and if you happen to focus on Black women's experiences it must mean we are excluding others and ignoring others pain.

Why have we got to a place that if we FOCUS in on OUR experiences that it is called not caring about other races of women?

Why is caring about ourselves so "hateful" to you? Why is empowering ourselves so hateful to you?

It's the people who are supposed to be open-minded who deny Black experiences and want to get rid of the whole race thing so they won't have to a. lose their white friends b. They believe acknowledging racism is enabling to black people c. If they are not black they want to ignore racism and intersections because any systems of oppression are supposedly imaginary.

It's funny how everyone is allowed to express their pains and frustrations, EXCEPT Black women and people.

Everyone is allowed to praise their culture and acknowledge history in their culture, EXCEPT Black people.

Everyone is allowed to point the finger at Black women and how we supposedly ruin the world, but the moment Black women acknowledge that he has been abused or felt defeated at some time at the hands of a Black man she is "bitter" or "man hating"

Then you want to convince me that race is just a biological construct

So this means all races, black people included are biologically motivated to ignore Black voices pointing out racism, sexism, misogyny, and homophobia "playing the victim" and countering it with "black people aren't the only ones who experience that" when that is obvious.

I'm not buying it. People are socialized to hate Blackness, Black people included.

Call me "divisive" , "man hating", and "race baiting" all you want I SEE what the hell is going on.

If acknowledging ways that racism, sexism, and misogyny affects everyone and focusing on marginalized groups offend you or piss you off or make you feel like others are being ignored then that is YOU with your faulty thinking.‪#‎CreWisdom‬.